We moved to Florida from Ohio, and yeah, we’re in Orlando and not right next to the water, but we have to take advantage of the opportunity every once and a while, yes? Not so fast. As someone who has hyper-vigilance in identifying the overratedness of things conventional wisdom deems to be good, I have decided to put together a pros and cons list of a day at the beach. (Admittedly, much of this is pretty specific to me and my situation.)
Here it goes.
That moment you decide you’re going to go to the beach next weekend – You couldn’t go last weekend, too busy. But this weekend coming up, you’re all set. You have a lot of stuff going on this week, so telling yourself that on Saturday you’re going to the beach as opposed to running errands makes the monotonies of the workweek easier to endure. Verdict: Pro.
Telling your kids on Friday evening that we’re going to the beach tomorrow unless they don’t finish their carrots – You don’t have much to hold over your kids to get them to do something besides threatening no more TV. But they’ve already watched too much TV today, they won’t be watching any more tonight anyway. And man, they kind of don’t mind carrots, so why are they making a big stink about eating them lately. Aha, beach. No beach if you don’t eat your carrots. Verdict: Pro.
Preparing to leave the morning of – You need to decide on a time, don’t want to get there too late and deal with traffic and not be able to find a good spot. So 9 a.m. it is. But that means your feeding the kids and yourselves breakfast at the same time as packing the cooler, getting the baby stuff together and locating everyone’s swimsuit and towels. Then there’s packing the car. Hopefully, you remember everything but you won’t. Oh, and now since you are doing all this running around trying to get out the door at a reasonable hour, you ask your kids do to one thing on their own, like put on their swimsuits and they start crying because they are right in the middle of building a tower out of Legos and need just one more minute to finish. Verdict: Con.
The drive – It’s an hour. All back roads though, so the first few times driving through the new-to-you Florida landscape is charming. But now, it’s just boring. Verdict: Con.
Setting up – This should be annoying, but you still can’t believe how cool that mini-shovel you got from Lowe’s for only $10 is and you don’t mind digging the holes for the umbrellas because it makes you feel useful. However, this is the point at which you realize the one critical thing that you have forgotten. This time it’s the chairs so you have to rent them at $8 each. Verdict: Push.
Having a coffee on the beach – Other that first cup of coffee at your desk after a 45-minute drive then 10-minute walk to your office from the parking garage on a windy and grey 28-degree February Ohio Tuesday, the beach is my second favorite place to have coffee. Verdict: Pro.
Seeing the sun – Ohio is quite possibly the greyest place on earth. This is something I never realized until I was adult when this was pointed out by numerous people I met from other parts of the country. I liken it to someone growing up poor who never realized it at the time, but looking back at all the powdered milk and hand-me-down sneakers, was able to put two and two together. I will never take the sun for granted. Verdict: Pro.
Slathering ourselves in sunscreen – Considering my complexion is somewhere between pale and translucent and Mindy’s only a few shades better off, copious amounts of sunscreen is necessary for us to enjoy the sun. Constant application of the white stuff on ourselves and the kids gets annoying. And after four hours in the sun, you somehow get burnt anyway. Verdict: Con.
That moment when your shirt has been off for a few minutes and you start to compare yourself to everyone one else – You have to lose a few pounds, so you’re pretty self-conscious. Your a grown man and a father, when are you going to stop caring about this? But maybe this is motivation to lose those few pounds, that’s something. And besides, there are many more people here with many more pounds to lose. Verdict: Push.
Getting into the ocean for the first time – It’s Florida. It’s August. It’s hot. It’s humid. After all that set up. All that sunscreen. That first headfirst dive into the cool saltwater is wondrous. Verdict: Pro.
The kids’ first wave of the day – We’ve been to the beach before. They know the drill. But still, the first big wave comes and they’ve suddenly forgotten every other time they’ve been to the ocean and freak out. I have no idea why this is. But they go running and crying back to our umbrellas and that “all of this effort has been for nothing” feeling starts to creep in. Verdict: Con.
The kids finally getting the hang of the whole wave thing – Playing in the waves is awesome. Being a grown man playing in the waves while your kids play in the sand is not. So it’s great when they are out there with you, yelling “Dad, here comes a big one, jump!” We could stay out there all day. Verdict: Pro.
Getting out of the water soaking wet and cold, opting not to towel off, sitting there until you air dry, getting hot, then getting back in the water and doing it all over again – This is the best. Verdict: Pro.
Just sitting there – You’re listening to and watching the waves come in. Maybe you’re under the umbrella, maybe not. Glancing over at your kids as they play in the sand. Verdict: Pro.
Eating lunch – Nicer scenery than the norm. No worries about spillage. You didn’t bring much for yourselves, so no worries about trying not to over-eat which is nice. But you you have to watch the kids like a hawk so they don’t put their peanut butter and jelly sandwiches down in the sand when they take a drink out of their Capri Suns. And the baby still needs bottles. Verdict: Push.
When the baby naps in his stroller – Awesomeness. Verdict: Pro.
Getting out of your chair and actually playing with your kids in the sand – They seem to have fun. Life is good when the kids are having fun. But sand is getting in your swim trunks. And this is the only one you have so it’ll need to be washed. So if you want to go swimming at home in the pool tonight or tomorrow, you’ll have to use a pair of workout shorts. Thus, chaffing. Verdict: Push.
Packing up – Somehow takes three times as long as setting up. Verdict: Con.
The drive home – You can now enjoy this because you’re no longer in a rush to get anywhere. Plus, two of the three kids fall asleep, making you feel like a good parent for facilitating an afternoon of healthy activity. Verdict: Pro.
Unloading the car – Grrrr. Verdict: Con.
Feeling like you’ve done something – You are probably not going to live in Florida forever. You want to look fondly at your time here. You think you read something once that said the having memories of good times are more important than initially experiencing those good times. So to implant these happy memories of days at the beach, you are going to need to do this more than a couple times a year. Verdict: Pro.
The result:
11 Pros, 6 Cons, 4 Pushes.
A day at the beach is, in fact, worth it.